Okay, so I get quite a few DM's on Twitter from guys who ask for help with the opposite sex. I'm not really sure why they think I'd make a great candidate to obtain advice from, but for those of you who want my advice, here ya go. Exclaimer: Use at your own risk:

1. Whenever I'm interested in someone, I always have a plan. The last thing you wanna do is pick her up and go back and forth asking "I don't know what do you wanna do" type of shit. Nobody likes that and you're wasting time. With that being said, you don't have to tell her what your plan is. Matter of fact, don't tell her. When she asks, just tell her "the only thing you need to know is what kind of shoes to wear." Then tell her casual. She'll appreciate the fact that you have a plan and most likely will be thinking and wondering what have up your sleeve. I think keeping it a secret also decreases the chances that she will flake on you. Now a days, it seems like people don't wanna commit to anything in case something better comes up. We live in a day in age where she will get texts and calls inviting her all over the place. Leaving it a mystery will leave it exciting since she has nothing to compare it to. It's just up to you to make sure she doesn't regret not going to her friends house party ;)

2. Skip the whole "dinner and a movie" bullshit. In my opinion, this has to be the worst date ever. The point of the date, in most cases, is to give you two the chance to get to know each other. How the hell is she suppose to do that when you can't talk during a movie? I suggest something active where you can have fun, be competitive, and still get to know each other. One of my favorite first dates was go-cart racing and then out to eat. It's fun. You blow of steam. You can let her win and then tease her about her lead foot and how she should remind you not to let her drive anywhere when you go out again. Just do something where you can talk but if there's silence, it won't be awkward. Get it? Good. 

3. At the end of the date, don't be pushy. Drop her off and don't expect anything. Don't call her or text her right away or anything like that. Just tell her you had fun and if you want, that you'd like to see her again sometime. I actually always ended the dates kind of early. Always had an excuse that I had plans later that evening. I always felt like that kind of took the weight off of her shoulders that I didn't have any expectations on how I thought the date would end. If you catch my drift. If I did have plans later that evening, and if I was able to, I'd let her know she could "tag-along" if she wanted to. If you don't have plans later in the evening and your evening with her has a happy ending....well.... the later plans can clearly be cancelled ;)

That pretty much sums up my dating tips. Have a plan. Don't seem desperate. Be the fun, spontaneous and charming version of you. 

- Keenan

 

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